Our words, tones, and non-verbal actions are meant to work together to let people know exactly what we're feeling but oftentimes we seem to use them for the purpose of confusing the ones we're close to.  It's silly that we feel the need to hide what we're really feeling.  Why not try being open? Then no one has to guess which signal to trust. When guessing comes into play, all that's created is tension and misunderstanding which doesn't benefit anyone.